Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Lydia O.

She would sit in her chair devouring yet another book when suddenly the back screen door would bang shut. She slams her book closed and jumps up from the chair and hurries to the kitchen to cook, once again trying not to reveal to her husband the ‘idle’ time she has just spent reading . . . again.


Lydia loved to read. As a little girl, she would walk the many blocks of Great Falls to the library getting book after book to read. When she married a man, also of German heritage, she moved over 200 miles away from her city life to a farm in rural Montana. A farm that eventually turned into a 30,000 head chickenfarm. A farm that consumed their days.

And yet her reading, and eventually her writing, remained her personal love.

She took those colorful words that she absorbed and jotted versions of them on pieces of scratch paper as snippets or even full paragraphs to use for a later writing. She attended writing classes. She wrote more.

And then one time she submitted a piece to a publication, hoping to possibly get published and acknowledged. Like so many writers, it was declined. And sadly, that was the end of that. She no longer would submit her work and allow getting rejected ever again.

And yet the scratch paper ideas mounted up, getting filed by topic or…just getting filed but never thrown away. As first and second generation Germans, she wrote about both hers and her husband, Pepper’s, ancestry and migration to the ‘new world’.

She eventually became the unofficial Stillwater County historian, interviewing and writing about communities and people and even acting as director of the budding county museum. If she got paid, it was only a token.

Lydia O. is the pen name she chose. Olga was her German middle name – she hated it - but found it unique enough to tag it onto her name for her pen name.

She now sits in a nursing home consumed by that ugly disease called Alzheimer’s and can’t remember a drop of what she so ravenously wrote about. She can’t even remember she was a writer.

THE POINT OF THE POST IS:  As I become more and more exposed to many blogs, different interests and styles of writing via the internet, I think about how my mother would have embraced a blog site of her own to release those thoughts and ideas that continually bounced around in her head.   Methinks she was born abour 30 years too early.   And what a gift it would have been to my silblings and children and grandchildren to have.

So, I dedicate my Alphabe-Thursday submission to my mother, Lydia O., the writer in my family.

(P.S. I have the bittersweet task of going through the massive house she lived in for 60 years and deciding what to do with not only the antiques (collected before antiques were fashionable) and family heirlooms brought from the ‘old country’ but also all those snippets.) 


Do check in at Jenny's blog and find tons of other fascinating "L" post for Alphabe-Thursday.  It gets better and better with each week!  It is a world-wide depiction of how diverse not only the internet is but also how diverse God's precious people are!
Enjoy!  (thus ends the advertisement for this week!)  :)

Jenny Matlock

38 comments:

  1. Love what you wrote and I am sorry she had Alzheimer's. That is such a devastating disease. I cannot imagine losing my memory.

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  2. My Dad was so smart and now his memory is probably 90% gone from Alzheimer's, so I could relate to what you wrote. Dad was a salesman and politician with a gift for gab. Now he sometimes says nothing when I visit. Other times a few words. I now console myself with the knowledge that Dad is content. He's off in his own little world most of the time and at least he seems happy. I hope your Mom is content too. I've decided that this disease is actually harder on the family than the person with Alzheimer's. I'm sorry you're having to go through this with her.

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  3. I too have jumped up and pretended to be working when my husband came in. Now its more because I am reading blogs than books, but I read at every opportunity. I am sorry she has Alzheimers it is so hard for everyone.

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  4. That is a very sentimental post. Such a horrible disease, I saw it with my Grandfather. You dedicated a beautiful post to her.

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  5. What a wonderful tribute to your Mother! I am sorry for her disease, but hope the going through the 'things' will bring memories of good times.

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  6. What a wonderful tribute to your mom. I'm sorry she has Alzheimer's. It's good that you have all your mother's writings. What a treasure they must be to you and your family.

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  7. Wonderful post dedicated to your mother. I hope you can put something together with all your mothers snippets. I am sure they would be historically telling to many people.

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  8. Thank you for sharing your deepest thoughts with us. What wonderful memories and maybe you can put those snipits together and honor your mom even more! Be thankful for each day that she is here, my mom passed away this summer and eventhough she was not herself,I was still able to hold her hand and look into her sweet face.

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  9. all of those snippets could go into a scrapbook ... that way they can be preserved for generations to come ... I loved your post!

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  10. What a great way to honor your Mother! I think the 'writer's' apple didn't fall far from the tree! Beautiful job!

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  11. Beautiful tribute to your mother. It's fun to imagine what our mothers and grandmothers would have written had they had access to blogs. So sorry to hear of her battle with Alzheimers, it is such a horrible disease and so hard on the family. How wonderful that you have these snippets of her thoughts to remember better days. Kathy

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  12. What an amazing piece about a very special lady!

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  13. Hi Nadeen
    This was a lovely tribute to your Mom! I am so sorry you are going through the perils of watching her slip away through Alzheimer's disease. We went through that with my mother-in-law and it was hard.
    I hope you will be able to preserve some of your Mom's snippets of writings and perhaps even publish a few of them here on your blog.

    You asked me in your comment on my blog if I had any affiliation with Poet's House. No, I was only a admiring visitor. I am retired and have time to visit various locations in NYC. I enjoy learning more about them and blogging about them.

    Pat

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  14. Wow, wonderful "L" write up! Your mother was one special lady!

    So, why don't you start a Lydia O. blog....and pass along all these wonderful stories and peeks into her life? I mean, after all, if not you, who?

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  15. When I went home to Georgia to visit in mid
    Feb, I found my 86-year-old mother, legally blind, in sad shape. She'd been living alone until then, doing pretty well but I found her incoherent with a pulse of 178. She didn't know me. I got her to the doctor to find she'd had a heart attack and frontal lobe stroke. She is now in assisted living and still doesn't know us. Such a sad end to the life she knew.

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  16. God bless Lydia O! A lovely tribute to your mom. I'm so sorry she's got Alzheimer's. God bless you all.

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  17. Thank you for sharing this story about your mother. What a wonderful woman and writer she was. I am so sorry to hear she has Alzheimers. I pray that a cure will soon be found to this devastating disease that robs people of their memory. Hugs to you as you go through her things and make the decision about what to keep and how to best honor her life.

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  18. What a lovely post! I so admire brave women like your mother who lived in pioneering times and pursued a passion for books, learning, and words. Blessings to you as you sort through all the years and memories. I think you have inherited her gift.

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  19. My mother is also slipping away from her family because of Alzheimer's. It's just so awful and so sad. Hugs to you Grandma Montana from Rocky Mountain Woman (also a Grandma). I'll be back to visit soon....

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  20. Thanks for lovely comments your blog is so beautiful what a cruel way to to ender the Autumn of her life

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  21. very interesting post..

    Happy Thursday...

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  22. you could donate your mom's writings to the local library :D

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  23. Hi! Have left a little award for you over at my placeThe Johnson Diaries
    Hope you like that sort of thing!
    So admire your ‘L’ post today - great post as always - and can understand all the problems associated with Alzheimer's.

    Love your blog - always great posts!
    Have a lovely day!
    XOXO LOLA:)

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  24. What a lovely tribute to your Mother. My dear Grandma had Alzheimers and just lost her at the end of February. I like the idea of you doing a blog using your Mom's writings. Thanks for sharing your heart with us.

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  25. Dee. I remember this conversation well.

    This was a lovely tribute to your Mother. I wish I could help you with the sorting!

    Lovely L post!

    A+

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  26. Thank you, for remembering your mother to us.

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  27. this is a beautiful tribute to an obviously beautiful woman. thank you for sharing!

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  28. I was really touched by this lovely post about your Mother. How awful to have the memory stolen from such a vibrant woman.

    This is my first time participating in alphabet Thursday! What fun! This is my first time participating in alphabet Thursday! What fun!

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  29. awww. What a wonderful story and sweet tribute! I love the pen name. Lydia O. It has such a nice ring to it. Thanks so very much for sharing. I hopped over from Alphabe-Thursday and am so happy that I did. Please accept my invitation to drop in at my place one day this week when you get a moment. I have become a follower and hope you will do the same. until later...

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  30. what a beautiful tribute to your mom...and how lucky you are to have all of those words and memories.

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  31. blogging would have been so much fun for her..It is kind of like having your own newspaper column in a small town......

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  32. This is really a lovely post. I hope that as you go through her house you will find some of her scratch papers and post about them!

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  33. Beautiful post! Your mom sounds like an amazing lady with a lot of spunk! :)

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  34. Although I didn't get to read your mother's writing, I think yours is beautiful and wonderful too!

    Very heart-warming tribute..

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  35. I think Lydia O's words would have inspire many had she been blogging, quite a sweet tribute

    thanks for your visit to my alphabe-thursday

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  36. I think writing runs in your family. You are a gifted storyteller. I can so relate to trying not to get caught "idly reading a book" I used to keep my book stashed under the pile of laundry on the living room couch. Then I would fold a few stacks and then start reading--until I heard my hubby come in, when I would stash the book and pick up some socks!

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  37. Thanks for stopping by my blog -- I read your comment about the diagonal fluorescent light to my husband. Even that ever so practical engineer was appalled!

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  38. Oh Nadeen - this post is so moving. Hope the house clearing doesn't prove too traumatic for you - just don't do it in Lycra!

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